For the self-aware mother who wants to trust herself enough to handle the hardest moments of motherhood.

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You already pause in those moments when your kids are driving you nuts by fighting over the same toy, or your husband comes home and immediately leaves his boots in the middle of the floor after you just went around and picked up blocks that got scattered everywhere with your cranky toddlers who resisted helping, all while you’re just trying to get dinner cooked. 


You already know your rage isn’t caused by anyone, and instead it's from inside you, just getting ignited by the simple things your children do that drives you nuts. 


And still, no matter how many times you catch yourself or how many times you wish you had a place to give your rage an outlet, you still end up feeling the pressure build every time the 3 year old pushes her little brother because he was standing too close to her, or they refuse to eat the lunch right after having a meltdown from being hungry because it “took too long for you to make”. 


THIS IS NOT BECAUSE YOU ARE FAILING, it’s actually something inside that has been asking to be tended to for a long time.


If you feel a disconnect from yourself inside and you know if you could cross the bridge from constantly burning out while trying to hide your uncontrollable rage to allowing your rage to flow without hurting your children, you would consistently respond the way you envision yourself, with a steadiness that would ground your whole family. 


I completely understand the tightness in the chest, the fogginess as you try to see past the frustration, and then the out of body rage where you snap out something you never wanted to say and regret immediately. 


I also know how completely freeing it is when you stop fighting your rage to constantly "stay calm" and instead know exactly what to do with it.